When I first read Ann Kroeker’s book, Not So Fast: Slow-Down Solutions for Frenzied Families, I was single. It seemed counterintuitive to read the book, given the subtitle. But I had just met Ann and our fast-forming friendship led me to believe there would be gems for even the frenzied single. And I was right. I wrote about the slowed-down life for singles in a series of blog posts back in 2011.

As I read the chapters about slowing down for families, I had to resist the urge to say, “If I were married, this would be a great idea,” and instead search for the application for me, just a singleton. After my recent marriage and instant motherhood, suddenly the connection points to Ann’s book are glaringly obvious. And harder than ever.

Take chapter 11, “Forget the Joneses,” for instance. As a new mom to three bouncing 9, 11, and 14-years-old boys, I have to resist every possible urge to compare them and their accomplishments to my friends’ children. And it’s not about the boys, really. It’s about me. Do I feed them properly planned and nutritionally balanced meals every time, do I allow them to participate in enough outside activities, do I accidentally leave them at basketball practice that was cancelled so they have to call their dad to come and get them?

Not that that last one happened, or anything.


Today I am writing over at the High Calling as part of the April book club discussing Ann Kroeker‘s book Not So Fast: Slow-Down Solutions for Frenzied Families. Join me there?